t is not for the sake of the husband that the husband is loved, but for the sake of the Self that the husband is loved.
Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, (2.4.5)
Recently a friend said it was a great day when he realized that love did not require an object. He did not need to love anyone in particular. He simply could love.
This is what the Upanishad is saying: that love is always, always about the Self. When we love, we are loving the Self. When I love you, I am loving the Self in you. Namaste. The Self in me recognizes and bows down to the Self in you.
If my love for you is not about the Self, it is something other than love. This is not necessarily a bad thing. It simply bears noting. Looked at from the point of view of love, it is my responsibility to love you no matter what. Always. Whether or not you’re doing it the way I need you to do it. Whether or not you are being lovable. Whether or not I’m in the mood for it. Whether or not you are loving me.
It is my responsibility to love. And each time I insist on this, I find myself more able to find Self in the world, to find the Self within me.
The more I love, the more I learn how to love. The more I learn how to love, the more I know the truth about what I am. The more I know the truth about what I am, the easier it becomes to love.
Today I will decide to love, no matter what. And when my mood would have me do something other than love, I will choose to love anyway.