13 Jul Love is a Way of Being in the World – July 14 2019
I was polishing this chrome around the top of the stove. It was clean, but not really shiny. So I took a steel wool and I started scrubbing it… and then it shone… And I said, ‘Now, you see it shines with love.’
So love takes many forms, doesn’t it? Duty, commitment, caringness about everything… It takes a form of caringness… Love is constant in our life because… certain aspects [of each of us know how to be loving] and those aspects show up in certain aspects of life. So we begin to nurture those aspects and appreciate those aspects of life in which love is taking a form that is not usually labeled as love.
See in our world, love denotes romance, denotes a here and there, denotes a me loving you and you loving me. That kind of love can be lost, it can be won or gained or lost or taken away from you. So that’s a different kind of love from spiritual love, which is awareness of a reality that is within you at all times.
So in reality, love is a way of being in the world. Love is actually a style, a way of being; it’s a way of holding yourself in life and every aspect of life within an overall context and that overall context gives it a different meaning, significance. A different appearance. It is just as important to polish the chromium as it is to save the life of somebody dying by the side of the street. You understand?
It’s just that capacity takes this form here, it turns over the beetle that’s on its back; here it saves somebody that’s bleeding by the side of the street, it calls 911; here it helps you in the door…
It’s that capacity, that willingness, to be that to the world. One has no idea of how that is going to be expressed. It may be explaining something to somebody. It may be telling them how to get to 33rd and Fordham…
So we see that love takes a thousand different forms, often unrecognized as what it is. [And] as one gets more spiritually committed and advanced, you begin to recognize its expression and you begin to see love everywhere. And as you get into certain states, the beauty and perfection of all things, and the constant presence of love becomes somewhat staggering. At that point it might be difficult to function in this world because everything reflects this beauty, and one has a tendency to break into tears.
David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., from the recording,
The Way to God: Devotion – The Way to God Through the Heart
If that was difficult to get through, please read it again. (Better yet, go on iTunes and get the recording.) The gist of it is: love does not exist ‘out there.’ There is no one who is going to bring me the love I crave. In fact, the craving I have for love cannot be filled by anyone. Finding romantic love and using it to fulfill this craving is like taking an opiate. The opiate will give us an experience that mimics the way we might like to feel, but it works only because we have receptor sites in our brain for the naturally occurring, endogenous opioids made by our own body. The drug will fit in the receptor site, sort of, but when it’s run its course, we will find ourselves depleted, we will find our own inner bliss chemistry no longer functioning as well as it once did, and we will find ourselves needing to find more of the drug.
Like this, romantic love is perhaps the closest we can come to feeling the bliss described by Dr. Hawkins above, but the intensity of it cannot last, and when it begins to fade, we will have to try to find it elsewhere. Or…
Or we can find love where it actually resides–within ourselves–and, having found it, we can take it to another and share it with them. We can find our own version of ‘polishing the chromium.’ We can take the care, attention and devotion we are able to apply to something, anything, and then bring that same care, attention and devotion to our partner, our friend, our child, our parent, our lover, our pet, a client, the cashier at the supermarket.
We can practice caring for whatever we find it easy to care for; and by recognizing this care as love, we will grow our capacity for it in all aspects of our life.
Today I will find one thing on my list of things to do today that I feel I can do with love and care and devotion, and I will do that thing with all the care and all the attention I can muster.